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Signs a Girl is Attracted to Asian Men

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I receive 1000s of emails from my fans asking for interracial dating advice for Asian men and also the #1 question that gets asked is, “How will i know if she (often a white girl, however, not always) is interested in dating Asian men?”

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Since your Asian Dating Coach, however, I’m finally answering the question since its been asked so frequently ad naseum. I’m finally going to put it to bed for the first and before despite my misgivings.

I used to be recently reminded with this controversial topic (and I’ll cover exactly why it’s so controversial extensively at the end) on one of my many flights training men inside the art of attraction when I sat next to an extremely pretty, blonde and bubbly California surfer kind of girl.

In our conversation, she made most of the verbal indicators of interest that I’ve heard in the past and that I’ve come to recognize as flirtatious signals from your woman when she’s attracted specifically to Asian men (and for that reason to the likes of you and I).

This is admittedly a rarer type of reverse Yellow Fever fraught with it’s own dangers and one in which I’ll go more into detail in my next article about single, white females who intentionally exploit Asian men.

So here is a list of some of the things these girls will consciously do to be able to let me know they want a samurai in shining armor (although I use the term white female, the truth is other women from Dark to Latin American, will also use the same flirting signals):

10 Signs a lady is Attracted to Asian Men

1. She “Knows” an Asian language:

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Maybe you’ve seen this type - they put Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Vietnamese, etc. under “languages you know” on Facebook (or wear an Chinese/Asian tramp stamp) while they really only know how to order pho.

Should you encounter these loquacious ladies, gentlemen, I suggest an awesome sexual bantering tip because each woman wants to be cultured. You, being a cosmopolitan man on the planet, are going to teach her an expression in your language. Here’s a good example for you Chinese speakers.

First, act very serious and say something similar to, “Let me teach you something. You’ll find this beneficial in the far reaches within my country. Say this: Wo xi huan gou pa shi.”

Make her repeat it. Then she’ll ask “What did I only say?”

And you’ll say (inside the most PLAYFUL tone and smile you can handle) “You just said ‘I like it doggy-style!’” But then go from playful to romantic. After she laughs off her embarrassment, use your phrases to compliment her.

Teach her “Wo hao xi huan ni de xiao” and, after she repeats it, she’ll ask again. You’ll say, “It means ‘I really like your laugh.’”

And she’ll laugh again. Carry on but turn it from playful to romantic. “You have beautiful eyes,” or “Your smile is amazing,” are flirtatious phrases shrouded in the learning experience.

Girls who've had the pleasure with this situation tell me it’s unique and something they’ve never forgotten. Make sure you utilize it if you know your native language!

2. She Has Asian Friends:

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Her closest friend is Chinese. Her college roommate was Korean. She lived next door to a Vietanemse family. Even though they don’t have these experiences they’ll say they've got some sort of Asian acceptance to create her seem more receptive. They’ll use the most random things as well; a really random story I’ve heard is how one girl’s delivery room doctor was a Japanese guy, so since she was “born to the arms of an Asian man” she should “die inside the arms of an Asian man also.” The point is, they are trying to form some sort of connection. [EXAMPLE: Paraguayan model Larissa Riquelme was unveiled in the idea of dating Asian men by a Korean acquaintance]

3. She Loves (Mixed) Fighting techinques: I’ve never benefitted out of this personally but one of my clients can be a former North American martial arts champ and he’s currently a fairly famous action director and actor. He’s written to me on several occasions in regards to the sexy crazy groupies that follow him and the people in his circuit - an ample selection of physically fit and attractive women are constantly at his discretion. Probably the most beautiful Asian men groupies stick to the martial arts circuit, the fighting styles circuit, and similar sports-oriented social circles. If she mentions Nam Pham, Cung Le or Manny Pacquiao…ding ding ding! You've got a winner!


4. She Loves Asian Food: Whether it is sushi, Korean BBQ or Pho, she's an Asian food “connoisseur.” If this type of comes up, use visual imagery to color a picture in her mind that appeals to all five senses. The sweet taste of jasmine rice, the aroma of a steaming bowl of pho, the appealing colors of nigiri sushi, the crackling sound of cooking your own Korean BBQ, and also the cold, soft texture of delicious sashimi are stimulating and also arousing topics. Why, you ask? Because speaking of food such as this is sensual…just like sex. The way to a man’s heart is thru his stomach, right? It applies to beautiful women too.


5. She Knows Much more about Your Mother Country Than You need to do: Even if she has no concrete plans, she’ll express her really wants to go there. With the Japanese tsunami, she’ll express sympathy - do not take on this as generalizing, she’s just trying to reach out to you. Play into these fantasies when you can. Paint a picture about going on a vacation together. Focus on romantic depictions of you doing things together, then progress to sensual and end up having sexual. We have to open that door first through verbal imagery progression. Surfing to walking hand in hand sipping on margaritas and coconuts then you’re rolling around inside the sand kissing. Use her desire to your advantage.


6. She’s a Gamer or Anime-Lover:

 They express fascination with anime (Sailor Moon, Akira, Pokemon, etc) and gaming (Final Fantasy and so on). This group of women aren’t really my cup of tea, but whatever floats your boat. If she likes them, fair game, that’s approximately her. If she’s talking about how Akira’s going to be whitewashed then she’s attempting to relate to you. The latter kind of woman really wants to impress you together with her knowledge of the “Asian male plight.” She’s hunting you to a point where you say something towards the effect of “That is so amazing how much you realize!” Watch for that and indulge her


7. She Loves Asian Music: Kpop, Jrock, dramas and films - this kind of girl is infatuated using the Hollywood of the East. They’re probably younger plus more attractive, as this is a comparatively new phenomenon, but because there’s no representation of SE Asians then she may well not go for you if you’re, say, Cambodian or Viet. Or Thai. Or Filipino. Or even Chinese for that matter. I’m not to imply it won’t happen, however can’t ever think of a time I used to be successful with this type of girl despite my PUA mastery. I recently don’t look East Asian, girly, emo enough. Sometimes, she just simply will not have anything only a BIG BANG boyfriend (in other words, a Korean or Japanese guy).


8. She’ll Compliment Your Asian Attributes: Be it your eyes, Asian hair, or complexion, she’s going to love them and let you know it at some point in the conversation. Take her up on it when she does by putting your forearm approximately hers, or if you feel much more comfortable or if the conversation goes well, take her hand to indicate the contrasting tones. Intangible such things as intelligence, family, work ethic, second language aren't uncommon topics either. Women learn through encouragement while men learn through challenge (should you tell a girl she looks sexy in that dress, she’ll probably put it on again). Just as we had been little boys, we do melt under the praise of your beautiful woman. When she praises my accomplishments including education or that familiarity with a second language, she’s attempting to help me learn.


9. She Loves Happa Interracial Babies:

 They’ll typically make a comment on how interracial babies are beautiful. You can bring this as well. “Just think…if you and get wed and we had a litter of the very most beautiful interracial babies…can you imagine how gorgeous they'd be?” It plays into her fantasy. Just like we men have sexual fantasies, women have “family fantasies.” They’ll deny it and push it out of their minds to remain emotionally detached, but keep in mind that, by the end of this or any conversation you've got with a female considering you, she’s already imagined your future life and family…just as you’ve imagined sleeping along with her.


10. She has “Asian-Dating Experience”: This is actually the biggest, most obvious indicator a lady can give you that she’s into Asian men in general and you in specific. Trust me, anytime a girl has ever explained she had an Asian boyfriend before, I can pretty much romantically interact with her 99.9999% of that time period. So a white girl like that will say that she has dated an Asian man before. She's going to make this point as well as further - she'll try to guess your ethnicity to show that she’s “learned in the methods for Asian men” and can prove that “not everyone look the same.” She’ll say she’s dated a guy of my ethnicity to make her seem more appealing and receptive if you ask me. So if she’s busting out this big gun, then it’s your responsibility to close because as signals go, it doesn’t have any bigger than this one.

While having, saying, or doing just one of the aforementioned things doesn’t automatically make a girl attracted to Asian men. But combine a number of those traits or even all of them together and, gentlemen, you just might find yourself conversing with one woman who is madly in love with the Asian persuasion.

Recall the #1 Rule: When you do meet that beautiful girl, always leave the lady better than you found her!

So just why WAIT UNTIL NOW To resolve THIS QUESTION?

I mentioned previously i was always reluctant to answer this question. I know it seems like a simple, straightforward question “What signals do white women give that says she’s approachable and receptive to Asian men?”

Why haven’t I answered it until now? Unfortunately, the act of wondering means your Not as likely TO SUCCEED with non-Asian women.

It’s a paradox. The thing is, I’ve always known the technical answer but I’ve for ages been hesitant to answer because, on the holistic level, it’s NOT empowering to Asian men in general to actually know the answer to that question. I believe that the thousands of men that message me with this question are displaying what is known as “learned helplessness.”

Basically, the men to whom the reply to the question “How can one tell if she’s attracted to Asian men (and therefore me)?” is important, are training themselves to simply make a move on a non-Asian women that distinctly signal more forward dating behavior first, prior to the man does. Quite simply, he wants a zero-risk, within the bag, sure-thing, 100% guarantee or your money back proposition.

Plus today’s modern world with modern women, the very last thing dating is, is risk-free.

This means instead of being a confident, masculine Asian man ready to take risks (who does then naturally attract these women be they white, black or Latina) and playing the Asian Card to obtain the beautiful woman, he instead gets to be the Asian beta male who's only confident if it's instead the woman who takes the initial risk. Instead of the proper way around which is the man’s role to become dominant, forward, and a leader.

I hope, however, I'm not really doing a disservice to Asian men by training to check, and ONLY look, of these specific female signals of attraction first prior to making a move… Instead of making a move first and then making her interested in you which she then provides you with signals. That’s the right way.

Laugh the right path into her heart (and then her pants)!

As you can see, I am a very average looking man. I'm a short 5 foot 5 inches and i also know I am not a great looking or handsome guy. Each woman I’ve dated is physically (or even socially) out of my league. I never get those kind of indicators of interest or signals of attraction. You should never expect them because I certainly don’t and my success with the most beautiful women may be documented and faithfully captured through the media around the world.

Instead, start using these signals and indicators of interest to your “Asianness” that she’s becoming attracted to you AFTER you’ve approached her and reached know her. You need to take these 10 Signals She’s Interested in Asian Men as signs for you to STAY when you’re already inside a conversation with her as opposed to viewing them as indicators so that you can initially approach her.

In the end, what I’ve discovered with females that specifically they enjoy Asian men are either in it for relationship material or sugar daddies. They’ll want to be there but be cautious because you’ll get tied down quickly with a girl that chose you, not just a girl YOU chose, the industry gross difference.

And after answering this time tested question, in my next controversial interracial Asian Male White Female dating article, I’m planning to address the 13 Forms of Women Who Exploit Asian Men! Yes indeed, there are women who will use the above mentioned signals because she’s only interested in your “Asianness”, but not for the reasons that you might think.

If you haven’t had the chance to get acquainted with yourself and know women, then I’d save these girls for later - all things considered, you’re here to learn grab, and quitting the sport early isn’t fair to yourself and to the many women you've got yet to meet.